President George Washington observed, ‘We ought not to look back unless it is to derive useful lessons from past errors, and for the purpose of profiting by dearly bought experience.’
When we reflect, we are able to put things into perspective; we gain new appreciation for things you didn’t notice before.
Few of us have clear perspective in the heat of the moment.
Most of us who have survived a traumatic experience usually avoid similar situations at all costs.
In fact, there is a science and study called Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) which have a tremendous impact on future violence victimization and perpetration, and lifelong health and opportunity.
Thus, we all have had this early childhood experience and hence possess unresolved issues that can cause us to react.
Reflection can empower us to respond!
Reflective thinking enables us to distance ourself from the intense emotions of an experience and see it with fresh eyes.
Indeed, this process is one of the first steps to getting rid of our emotional baggage.
Each of us has been shaped by the experiences, good and bad, that we’ve had in life.
What we refuse to deal with deals with us, and often in harmful ways.
We ‘act out’ of our unresolved issues.
In his book The Other Wes Moore, Wes Moore writes on page 157 “Early losses condition you to believe that short-term plans are always smarter.