Anger — another stage of grief

Anger seeps through our life and sometimes explodes.

After someone or something leaves our life, our emotions bubble and brew inside.

Unresolved issues come to the surface with a surprising presence and stunning velocity.

As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready.

The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger.

The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family.

Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed.

Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us.

We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.”

Yet, when we walk this portion of the journey of grief we can move forward…

Anger is a legitimate emotion and choosing how to live with and deal with this can constitute the journey to peace.

I walked this journey after the deaths of my parents — one unexpected because of cardiac issues and the other because of progressive and progressing Alzheimer’s disease.

The good news is that I went through that journey of grief with a growing and satisfying sense of peace.

The portions of this blog in italics and quotations come from www.pyschcentral.com.

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