The Way

In life we like to go our way, do it our way.


We want to be in the driver’s seat.

There comes a time when, we must sit in in the passenger’s seat, and let others drive us.


Such is my current situation and I should not drive until cleared.
The following comes to mind:

You will show me the way of life, granting me the joy of your presence and the pleasures of living with you forever. PSALM 16:11 NLT

Riding along offers new perspectives, gazing upon new vistas!

Quiet

I have been quiet since my shoulder replacement surgery on March 3rd, 2020. That period of time has generated and germinated many thoughts, feelings, reflections, and lessons learned.

I wrote, actually scribbled, feelings and thoughts along the way.

A few gems have emerged, such as “on the road to covering” along with the “rollercoaster of life.”

I have started to type some of those “scribbles” and will write more in the days to come.

My recovering may very well mirror and parallel what many are experiencing in the current state of the pandemic.

My faith, prayer, and outreach (virtual and electric via google hangouts) has provided a new normal in connecting with people.

If you would like to “hang out” via Google Hangouts, let me know and we will figure it out.

Peace and blessings.

To the students at OEHS, I miss you guys.

Anger — another stage of grief

Anger seeps through our life and sometimes explodes.

After someone or something leaves our life, our emotions bubble and brew inside.

Unresolved issues come to the surface with a surprising presence and stunning velocity.

As the masking effects of denial and isolation begin to wear, reality and its pain re-emerge. We are not ready.

The intense emotion is deflected from our vulnerable core, redirected and expressed instead as anger.

The anger may be aimed at inanimate objects, complete strangers, friends or family.

Anger may be directed at our dying or deceased loved one. Rationally, we know the person is not to be blamed.

Emotionally, however, we may resent the person for causing us pain or for leaving us.

We feel guilty for being angry, and this makes us more angry.”

Yet, when we walk this portion of the journey of grief we can move forward…

Anger is a legitimate emotion and choosing how to live with and deal with this can constitute the journey to peace.

I walked this journey after the deaths of my parents — one unexpected because of cardiac issues and the other because of progressive and progressing Alzheimer’s disease.

The good news is that I went through that journey of grief with a growing and satisfying sense of peace.

The portions of this blog in italics and quotations come from www.pyschcentral.com.

The Journey of Grief

The journey of grief moves through stages where we can, as we chose to, end up in peace.

There is a quietness that comes on us when we are finally at peace.

Our troubles might still be here, but our complaints are gone and our fears have evaporated.

Many have suffered, but in their suffering they found something that pain, grief, or loss could not take away from them.

They found something that overshadowed their problems, overcame their bullies, and drove away their fears.

Discernment is our ability to judge what is good, true, and beautiful.

Discernment is also the inner knowledge of how to act on that which we perceive.

Our use of discernment relies on the clarity of our centered minds, the objectivity of peace-filled hearts, and the unobstructed impulses or instincts of our bodies. . . .

Grief

Grief

The following comes from the website http://www.mayoclinic.org.

No revisions have been made to this.

Further and future blogs on grief will come, based on the experience of many persons, including myself.

“Grief is a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for people, regardless of whether their sadness stems from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received.

They might find themselves feeling numb and removed from daily life, unable to carry on with regular duties while saddled with their sense of loss.

Grief is the natural reaction to loss. Grief is both a universal and a personal experience. Individual experiences of grief vary and are influenced by the nature of the loss. Some examples of loss include the death of a loved one, the ending of an important relationship, job loss, loss through theft or the loss of independence through disability.

Experts advise those grieving to realize they can’t control the process and to prepare for varying stages of grief. Understanding why they’re suffering can help, as can talking to others and trying to resolve issues that cause significant emotional pain, such as feeling guilty for a loved one’s death.

Mourning can last for months or years. Generally, pain is tempered as time passes and as the bereaved adapts to life without a loved one, to the news of a terminal diagnosis or to the realization that someone they love may die.

If you’re uncertain about whether your grieving process is normal, consult your health care professional. Outside help is sometimes beneficial to people trying to recover and adjust to a death or diagnosis of a terminal illness.”

Crawlin’ in the mud

The longer we get to know ourselves and each other, we see more of the whole picture.

“Beauty spots and warts” constitute the whole picture.

While the view shows the facts, our choice lies in how we interpret the facts.

Criticism or Grace constitute the choice paradigm.

Love forms the decision and choice to be gracious.

A Japanese proverb simply proclaims: “ If there is love, smallpox scars are as pretty as dimples.”

A series of verses in Big Muddy, Bruce Springsteen says wisely and simply:

“Without their shirttail dirty

Or their hands a little bloody

Waist deep in a big muddy… “

He later sings “You start on higher ground but end up crawlin’”.

We start on higher ground and with age and aging, we “end up crawlin’.

We all live waist deep in a muddy world, with dirty shirttails and bloody hands.

We wade into the muddy world, when we wade into life, along with others.

We bloody our hands when we build a world together — CRAWLIN’

Then, on our knees, with humility, we move forward!