Showing rather than shooting

“Train up a child in the way he should go, even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 nasb

As a parent, grandparent, mentor, or friend, we can have a lasting impact on the next generation.

The children we love will be encouraged by our love.

The latest mass shootings in our own country by young men urgently call out for a presence which both forms and direct a way of respect rather than rage and revulsion to the differences in our society.

The effort we make to earn the right to be heard opens doors to teachable moments.

Let’s learn to value the importance of showing a child or teen that they are loved.

Helping a young person navigate the maze of growing up, helping him or her to find the right path, is a gift that he or she will grow to appreciate as the perspective of age sets in.

Our example will light the way for our sons and inspire our youth to treat themselves and others with rather than rage all need to learn and live with respect.

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Choose wisely

A Powerful Influence

Become wise by walking with the wise; hang out with fools and watch your life fall to pieces. Proverbs 13: 20 msg

Family, spouse, and friends exert a powerful influence over your life.

Family you are given.

Spouses and friends you choose.

They help you grow, or they hold you back.

Motivational speaker Charles “Tremendous” Jones once said, “You will be the same person in five years as you are today except for two things: the people you meet and the books you read.”

You can be friendly to anyone, but choose your spouse and friends with care.

In the American pioneer days, two oxen were often yoked together to plow the soil or pull heavy loads. The heavy wooden or metal yoke kept them together. When one moved, the other moved. If one fell, the other fell with it.

By choosing wise friends, you move forward with them and avoid many pitfalls.

Choose the right books to read.

Source is “Moments of Peace From The Wisdom Of God” with revisions and additions by Phillip Kapela

At some time

George Washington Carver [1864?–1943] . . . stressed that “how far you go in life depends on your being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving, and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.”

George Washington Carver, as quoted in Christina Vella, George Washington Carver: A Life (Louisiana State University Press: 2015), 291.

Gentle answer and soothing tongue

The gentle answer and soothing tongue

“Let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds.” Hebrews 10: 24 nasb

After a date in our recent past, automobiles were equipped with a catalytic converter, which transforms dangerous pollutants into less harmful compounds.

The secret to this device is the catalyst it contains. This substance makes that chemical transformation possible.

Many dangerous pollutants in our society harm and even destroy our world. Emissions contribute to global warning. Angry blurts and twitters anger, hurt, and divide.

Contrary to an adage spoken “words can hurt, not just sticks and stones.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath.. the soothing tongue is a tree of life but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.” Proverbs 15.

Blooming rather than blowing up

The beauty within blooming rather than blowing up.

“People who make fun of wisdom cause trouble in a city, but wise people calm anger down.” Proverbs 29: 8 ncv

Most often, angry people simply need to be heard.

A filled balloon will pop when poked.

But when released slowly, it will deflate on its own.

Angry people are usually the same way. They explode if provoked.

But when given enough room to talk, if listened to what they have to say and invalidating their feelings, they will release what is bottled up inside.

Once everyone has calmed down, there’s room for further conversation and growth.

Learning to de-escalate conflict is an important skill.

By exercising good judgment concerning when to speak and when to listen, potentially explosive situations can move from explosions to unveiling of the beauty within the person and the blooming.