In Control or Controlled

In Control or Controlled

Respond or react?

Patience is better than strength. Controlling your temper is better than capturing a city. Proverbs 16: 32 ncv

Many times …

In our world, there are many good reasons—as well as many bad reasons—to feel angry.

Controlled anger is a response to a given situation.

When we manage our anger well, we put ourself in a position of leadership.

When we react, by contrast, we can be the hotheaded person alienates even his friends and sows the seeds of his own demise.

These questions will help: Is our anger motivating constructive action?

Is it appropriate to the situation?


Where there is no counsel, the people fall; but in the multitude of counselors there is safety. Proverbs 11: 14 nkjv

Counsel -A role and a person.

While we are know something, all know more.

More people can mean more wisdom.

It can also lead to confusion where shared values are lacking.

A kitchen cabinet holds much and a cabinet of counselors …

Power to do good.

Do not withhold good from those who deserve it, when it is in your power to act. Proverbs 3: 27 niv

In a mixed-up world, injustice and unfairness abound.

But each person has an opportunity to help make things right by giving credit where credit is due, by giving praise where praise has been earned, by rewarding good performance when it is within their power to do so, and by giving help to those who deserve it.

Let’s say “thank you” and “well done” to a store clerk, a server, and, most especially to everyone at home!

Learning from whoops and wows

“Whoops” often erupts and sometimes blurts from our mouth — something we said and/or did.

We immediately knew that the action was not good.

“Wow” often also jumps out of our mouth because the action and experience lights up our world and gives life and joy.

I have learned more from my “whoops” than my “wows” for they show me the change which I need to make.