Change For The Better

Change needs to happen when the pain is too much, when the accumulated results of past actions have impacted our lives that the present is unhealthy to the extent that the current state will lead to…

What is one toxic thing we need to stop doing so that we will discover the one beneficial thing we need to do to start living?

With humility and courage, we need to solicit the wisdom and feedback of those closest to us — spouse, children, best friend, doctor or clergy.

These true persons who truly know us, love us and also want the best for us, can offer what we need to hear and do and not what we want to hear and do.

This counsel from others undergirds the journey to needed foundation to needed growth and change towards the new life in 2020 which will develop into the new person we need to be!

So, the first step is to ask others!

As a student of history, catastrophes happened when people did not listen to others or failed to understand the past.

Remember the old definition of insanity — expecting things to change while doing the same thing?



“I will…”

“I want to…”

“I need to…”


We all have made then in the past and will make them for the coming year.

These phrases emerges as resolutions for the coming year.

So, what will I do in this coming year: emotional, spiritual, physical, and … goals?

We all need to be different – Growth and change for the better are necessary for us and for the people in our life.

Doctor Jim Denison writes that according to Statistic Brain Research Institute here are interesting facts regarding New Year’s Resolutions:

•    45 percent of Americans usually make New Year’s resolutions

•    Only 8 percent are successful in achieving them

•    However, 49 percent have at least infrequent success

•    Only 24 percent never succeed in fulfilling their resolution each year.”

Here’s a fact I found particularly interesting:

People who explicitly make resolutions are ten times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions.”

In my experience the resolutions that actually evolve, grow and mature are the ones that elicit the counsel of others, enlist the accountability of others, and focus on a long range plan, with daily measurable achievable actions.

With the requisite humility and courage, let’s invite the experience of those closest to us, what change we need to make — spouse and children — start at home.

The sage in Proverbs 15:22 penned “Plans fail for lack of counsel,

but with many advisers they succeed.”

What resolutions do I need to make for the coming year?

More to come!

Smarter Than A Monkey

The ten year old grandson will be spending a few days with us — a time of delight, joy, and…
He quickly resolves any electronic challenge with a smirk that says “really?,” much to my delight and humility — yes, the question can be posed “Am I smarter than a ten year old.”

I enjoy sharing some wisdom with him, while we laugh at a marathon of comedy shows, which we both enjoy.

This reminds me of how we all learn wisdom, sometimes easily; and other times with a hard earned lesson.

“Always Do Right You will be safe, if you always do right, but you will get caught, if you are dishonest. Proverbs 10:9 cev

According to some sources, Asian villagers capture a monkey by placing fruit in a vase or other container.
The monkey sticks his hand in the container to grab a banana, but when he tries to pull it out, he gets stuck.
There isn’t enough room for the monkey to get both his hand and the fruit past the opening.
If the monkey were to let go, he could easily extract his hand, but refusing to let go, the animal is trapped by his own greed.
That’s a lesson for us.
When we refuse to let go of the very thing that traps us and prevents us from going forward, we’re not acting any smarter than the monkey.
(in part form Moments of Peace in the Wisdom of God . Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.”

JAM today

Coming Up — Just Around The Corner

I had three (3) celebrations with the family over the past few days. Now it can be affirmed “I have enough to eat… at least for a few days.

Wrapped presents, small and large, brightly wrapped create a sense of something “coming up;” just “around the corner” as boxes are carried into a room.

Kids of all ages and decades heft packages, shake packages.

A quizzical look creeps up on the face.

And then “WOW” “WHOOPE” and “YES” erupt from our mouths.

Delight generates joy.

G. K. Chesterton wrote “There is one thing which gives radiance to everything. It is the idea of something around the corner.”

For me the best gift revolves around people not seen for a period of time.

Accept a gift, share a gift, be a gift to someone who looks like he/she needs a gift of another smile.

While the White Queen in Alice In Wonderland may lament the absence of joy in the present moment when she said “Jam yesterday, jam tomorrow, but no jam today,” we can be “jam” for someone today.


The day after — the first day for… Hope

Today I will share a piece from Dr. Jim Denison (www/

The power of hope 

Gabriel Marcel noted that “hope is for the soul what breathing is for the living organism.” G. K. Chesterton added: “There is one thing which gives radiance to everything. It is the idea of something around the corner.” Samuel Johnson observed: “The natural flights of the human mind are not from pleasure to pleasure, but from hope to hope.” 

A mouse dropped in water will give up and drown in minutes. But if it is rescued, it will tread water for more than twenty hours the next time. 

After World War II, Allied armies gathered up thousands of hungry, homeless children. They sheltered and fed them, but the children were afraid to go to sleep. Then a psychologist came up with the solution: the children were given a slice of bread, not to eat but to hold. And they slept well, for they knew they would have food for tomorrow. 

Austin pastor Gerald Mann saw his church grow from sixty people to four thousand members in fourteen years. His explanation: “I know three things people want when they come to church: they want help, they want home, and they want hope.” 

See that hope in your life/world today and be that hope for others!

Angels We Have Heard


A verse from a Christmas carol “Angels we have heard on high..” floats through the airways of radio, TV, Internet and stores.

Just yesterday a trio (my daughter, grand daughter and I} went to visit a light show in Elburn, Illinois.

A blazing and awe inspiring display of lights and music lite up the evening sky — and one of the songs was “Angels we have heard on high.”

Have we seen any such awe inspiring display of angels around us lately?

Let’s focus not just on the kind we saw last night now the the kind that are hanging on our Christmas tree or mantel.

Sure, we all have and I did yesterday.

Carol was my angel yesterday when she listened to me and, by her gentle words and actions, reminded that God speaks and serves in the midst of many things which can derail and/or distract from His Presence, Power, and Provision.

Who has touched all of us and everyone one of us with a kind word, a holy hug, and a word of comfort?

Right again. It’s an angel of the Lord!

How about being an angel — who have we supported with a caring gesture and helpful hand recently?

Who have we gone out of your way to help and listen to when a friend has been hit by illness?

And to whom will be an angel to today — strap on those wings and start flying!

Prayer For Our Earth

A Prayer For Our Earth

All-powerful God, you are present in the whole universe

and in the smallest of your creatures.

You embrace with your tenderness all that exists.

Pour out upon us the power of your love,

that we may protect life and beauty.

Fill us with peace, that we may live

as brothers and sisters, harming no one.

O God of the poor,

help us to rescue the abandoned and forgotten of this earth,

so precious in your eyes.

Bring healing to our lives,

that we may protect the world and not prey on it,

that we may sow beauty, not pollution and destruction.

Touch the hearts

of those who look only for gain

at the expense of the poor and the earth.

Teach us to discover the worth of each thing,

to be filled with awe and contemplation,

to recognize that we are profoundly united

with every creature

as we journey towards your infinite light.

We thank you for being with us each day.

Encourage us, we pray, in our struggle

for justice, love and peace.

Sr. Wendy Beckett

“Over the river and through the woods, to grandmother’s house we…”

“On the road again…”

Excerpts, such as the above, chronicle the journey that all of us make.

The journey may be a physical one — getting to grandmother’s house, or a spiritual or psychological one on the path to… Someone.

The fact and the celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ approaches.

My Christmas wish is…

I want to meet you.

I want to see you.

I am getting myself ready.

I want to see You.

I will sharpen my focus.

I will wait.

I know You will not be late.

You will come at the right time.

At that time

When You will be mine.

I will be ready for that time

When You will be mine.

Into our world

You have come.

The world was aglow

Now Your Presence show.

Phillip Kapela

Good News

“Yes, this is Doctor .., the results of your test indicate that you do not have …”
“Hi, this is Officer …, we have just located your missing child, and everything is fine.”
A “secret Santa,” or, in my background “secret St. Nicholas, anonymously provides gifts for others.
The phrase “good news” encapsulates two life-changing elements “good” and “news,” that is: unexpected and beneficial.
We all need to be on the receiving end of “good news.”
Others need us to be on the giving end of “good news.”
A few years ago, Carol and I were eating out at a local restaurant.
When we asked for the bill, the waiter smiled and said “Someone else paid it for you!”
Let’s be that “good news” for others today.
“Good news from far away is like cold water to the thirsty.”
Proverbs 25:25

Statement, the promise, the present

A statement, the promise, the present.
I am.
This statement in the present moment expresses who we are now.
I will.
This statement while in the present moment expresses, what we will be in the future — a promise is conceived.
The promise made now becomes a present in the future!
According to Merriam-Webster a promise is a declaration that one will do something specified … that gives the person to whom it is made a right to expect …”
An Arabian proverb proclaims “A promise is a cloud; fulfillment is rain.”
As Peter F. Drucker wrote “Unless commitment is made, there are only promises and hopes; but no plans.”
Finally, a promise made in the past, fulfilled along the way, will become a present only when accepted, as a German proverb proclaims “Promises have legs. Only a gift has hands.”
So, who are we, who am I, now?
So, what promises are we, am I making now?
Which promise will become a gift which we give in the future?
And finally, Robert Frost penned one of my favorite verses “The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep, and miles to go before I sleep.”
And so, we go on!